How many people do you know who don't like to make their own decisions or don't know how? These kinds of people ask someone else what to do or ask someone to do it for them.  Maybe you generously help someone with decisions, not realizing that you may actually prevent this person from developing key life skills. 

If you're having a tough time, and feel very vulnerable, you may prefer to lean on someone.  You may have lost a loved one, be in a destructive relationship or feel stuck in a self-defeating situation. You may ask people to guide you, tell you what to do, and eliminate your bad choices.  Yet, not facing things on your own means you permit fear or uncertainty to control you.  This may prevent you from learning to seek professional help you need.  Unless you figure out how to leave a destructive situation, or grow from what you now see were bad choices, you may become dependent on people for judgments and self-assessments you need to learn to make yourself. 

Maybe you have a conflict looming, where you're definitely in the right, yet, obtaining more just and ethical treatment isn't easy.  The experience may be an ongoining trial of patience and inner strength.  You may fear losing faith in the process, losing faith in yourself and wonder about the implications of any decisions. What would be the best thing to do now?

Rest assured that you're frequently being given new opportunities to change, to learn from mistakes and then, to try again and make better decisions.  It's all in how you look at the situation.  You have power to take charge of your life, to learn to read your intuition.  We all benefit from learning to look at ourselves to see where and when we have grown,how we have contributed to the lives of others, and why we have had a sense of failure. Learning to deal with the truth of why we evade choices and situations enables us to shape our lives for the better.