Allan and Barbara Pease are experts in human relations and body language. They have sold over 20 million books including, Why Men Don't Listen and Why Women Don't Read Maps, Why Men Lie and Women Cry, Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes, and The Definitive Book of Body Language: how to read others' thoughts by their gestures. They're also popular public speakers. I have had the pleasure of being in th audience of some of their events and always come away with gems of wisdom. This has real relevance and staying power.
Even if you have never heard of these people, these 10 tips taken from their books will trigger your own "ah-ha" moments. After all, as you dream, devise a plan and proceed unconsciously, its your underlying thoughts and emotions that determine how your vision or dream unfolds:
1) Being perceptive means being able to spot contradictions between someone's words and their body language. (Being self-aware means discerning these things in yourself).
2) For a man, success in the mating game relies on his ability to read the signals being sent to him, as opposed to being able to initiate. Women's difficulty in finding partners isn't about reading signals, its more about finding a partner who will match their criteria.
3) Modern humans are worse at reading body signals than their ancestors because we are now distracted by words.
4) When a person's words and body language are in conflict or contradict, women ignore what is said. Men react differently.
5) Submissive dogs reveal their throats. Humans reveal their palms. The position of your hands on your arms, legs or in the air actually reveals if you're being honest with yourself.
6) A natural smile produces characteristic wrinkles around the eye--insincere people smile only with their mouth.
7) Science proves the more you smile, the more positive reactions others will give you. (Good advice is to smile constantly. Everyone will wonder what you're up to.)
8) The older human beings become, the more serious they become. An adult laughs an average of 15x/ day while preschoolers laugh more than 400x/day.
9) People drink alcohol and take drugs to try to feel how happy people feel normally.
10) When the mind closes, the physical body follows. The question is, do you notice the real meaning behind gestures or choose to beat your head against the wall?