Whatever you see and understand as the external world, you come to discover that you cannot make it happen your way or control it exactly as you want. No person, creature situation or relationship in your life is always doing what you want it to do all of the time. This revelation unleashes a gush of nothing. Even that which cannot be named is heartfelt.
What's happening in your head is your dream. Its also projection. As you recognize you do not control the external, this is an invitation to turn inward to access peace. If you are not feeling peaceful and contented, then your attention is anywhere but here. You begin to sense that if you do not do the right things, the right things do not happen to you. You begin to feel you create the nature of your life. When you feel joyful, you treat others well. Everything is a mirror for how deeply you access the essence of being within you. The social world is an extension of allowing and resisting all you are. How quiet can 'you' be?
Every moment is an opportunity to experience the present in its pure perfection.
"The awakened one is open to everything and everything falls into place." -Sri Bhagavan