Being real is about paying attention to yourself, how you think and feel and underlying programs. Its about coming to see through your own unconscious defenses, making life choices that allow shifting focus and entourage, so to project, perceive, operate from a new vantage point.
As Albus Dumbledore (from Harry Potter) says, the time comes when we must choose between what is right and what is easy. This is about coming to recognize what we are conditioned to do and what intuitively feels right, trusting feelings. It is about embodying true nature, facing fears and embarking consciously into situations of the unknown.