8 ways to stop resisting change

Humans are encouraged to love every being, including themselves. This seems to require a stretch beyond what most people think is possible. Universal acceptance implies respecting all views about physical, mental, emotional, spiritual sides, and dimensions you may not yet acknowledge or even consciously register.

At this moment, if you are unwilling to adjust your views or unsure how to be more receptive to the unfamiliar, then you could dream the ideal. You could change. Why do people resist change or shifts in their beliefs? Consider these eight ways to stop resisting change. How and where do you relate?

1) Reframe discomfort. Everybody creates mental, spatial and other comfort zones. Examine yours. Why feel awkward when people get too close or, offended by ideas that oppose your principles? Why doubt an event because you have not shared a similar experience or when you are unable to explain it? Your feelings reveal levels of flexibility and rigidity. They are clues to deeper fears, resentment and views worth attention.

2) Transcribe thoughts. Many people will assume things are too difficult as they are. Things you hear about the physical world may not seem to jive with your senses. You may not consciously realize your thinking process or how you doubt and deny inner signs. To journal thoughts empowers you begin to see through fears and other illusions that ego creates.

3) Choose maturity. Over-protection from disappointment prevents self-directed learning. Children will grow up without coping skills and become intimidated by the adult world. Choosing maturity enables you to learn to manage new situations. Regardless of the past, you can be willing to grow.

4) Deny history must repeat. You may be thinking, it did not work last time, or improve, so why now? As you become more conscious, you slowly dissolve misplaced assumptions. You become bold, daring. You chose to shape new events.

5) Develop mental discipline.  Memories of pain, suffering, confusion or discouragement may drown your senses. Emotion is a dimension of ego. Conditioning creates instinctive reactions that occur to a perceived threat or challenge. As you realize emotions become the body's response to a thought, you realize you can change them without filtering.

6) Tackle self-worth issues. Life events tests your levels of self-esteem. If you do not believe you are good enough, talented enough, or enough in other ways, then esteem blocks you from taking action.  You may not have been taught how to embrace life with a positive attitude.  Its never too late to learn.

7) Expand perception. As you discern peer pressure and external ideas for what they are, you realize conforming is a choice just like awakening or transcending is a choice.  To learn to release unnecessary feelings leads to unfamilar sensations.  You shift to a different state of alertness.  You rediscover what it means to be present, to attune to energy fluctuations. You confirm your reality with new thoughts. They may defy words. This is okay. Sensing expands to teach you.

8) Shatter your myths.  Part of you may wonder if your impetus for change is grounded in self-love or inadequacy. How do you know? Where you believe only change will make you happy, then inner work would be desirable to strengthen self-acceptance. How does resistance affect your life?

"Belief like any other moving body follows the path of least resistance."

- Samuel Butler 

Comments

[Jannie Funster]

Liara: "To journal thoughts empowers you begin to see through fears and other illusions that ego creates." So, you mean just writing down your feelings is a good exercise in itself?

[Jay]

I always feel like I am committing a crime when I read your post. They are always so insightful that I feel I should have paid good money to obtain such knowledge- instead it is free- thank you for sharing your intellect with us- it is truly priceless!

[Liara Covert]

Jannie, whether or not you determine an exercise is good depends on what you hope to get out of it and how you evaluate the results. Writing your feelings encourages different levels of self-reflection. People who journal their experiences can grow to realize this enables them to step outside the experience. To re-read what you write enables you to view it from an observer perspective. This vantage point enables you to examine situations with new awareness. You not only acknowledge certain emotions, but you begin to realize that something causes them that you had not necessarily thought about before.

Jay, guilt is an illusion I encourage people to work through. The universe works in mysterious ways. When you feel you gain something useful, you can return the favor by choosing to help another person somewhere. Energy reverberrates in ways you do not expect. The articles on this site also promote my writing and my forthcoming book. When readers gain insight from this site, they may also choose to purchase the book.

[Tom Volkar / Delightful Work]

I particularly enjoy re-framing discomfort and expanding perception. These practices always provide me with further realizations to understand and act on. I appreciate the empowering list.

[Liara Covert]

Jannie, whether or not you determine an exercise is good depends on what you hope to get out of it and how you evaluate the results. Writing your feelings encourages different levels of self-reflection. People who journal their experiences can grow to realize this enables them to step outside the experience. To re-read what you write enables you to view it from an observer perspective. This vantage point enables you to examine situations with new awareness. You not only acknowledge certain emotions, but you begin to realize that something causes them that you had not necessarily thought about before.

Jay, guilt is an illusion I encourage people to work through. The universe works in mysterious ways. When you feel you gain something useful, you can return the favor by choosing to help another person somewhere. Energy reverberrates based on your intention and actions. In another way, articles on this site also promote my writing, dream analysis and coming book. When readers gain helpful insight from this site, they may choose to purchase the book or retain me for outlined services.

Tom, great to hear your self-awareness is growing. It is truly empowering to expand your perception. Life teaches you only gain certain insight through experience. It is a privilege to give the intangible back and to share lessons.

[Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker]

Writing about my feelings in the form of journaling has been my greatest tool for spiritual growth. If I can write the words, in addition to hearing them in my head, I have involved 2 senses instead of just the sense of hearing. The more senses that you involve in an activity, the more awareness you get. It works for me.

Something else that I discovered is that feelings don't have to make sense to my analytical mind. So much of my spiritual growth has had to do with reconnecting with my feelings. As a child surviving incest, I had to separate my mind and body from those feelings in order to survive. In order to survive as a fully functioning adult, I have had to reconnect with those feelings and allow them to just be. That hasn't been easy but it has been worth the effort. Life is so much more rewarding and fulfilling with all of my senses and feelings activated. With my feelings shut down, life was without joy. Joy and love are what makes life worth living.

[Liara Covert]

Patricia, that sounds like a very healthy attitude. Each person is on a very personal journey. What works for one person will not necessarily gel with another. As you evolve to be ready to progressively accept your feelings, your accept your perception and what you perceive as exanding parameters of the mind. Things that might have seemed strange to the old you suddenly make loads of sense.