10 points on power of choices
Saturday, June 20, 2009 at 11:15PM Some people believe that the process of learning is one of he most challenging things to do. You may forget that you have the capacity to shift mindst, focus or distance yourself from anything. It all comes down to choices. Review 10 points;
1) Any person or situation that appears to manipulate your fears or make you more frightened is out to control you, not empower you. You choose to raise awareness of how you feel and why or, not. You actively facilitate self-healing or not.
2) To nurture spiritual connections is to reconnect with a sense of unconditional love. This enables a person to recognize he is never truly abandoned, rejected, or alone. To deny spirituality or downplay its energy and potential, is another choice.
3) Situations that evoke discomfort are the kinds of things you exist to confront. You can exert valiant effort to face and overcome them, assist others with their own situations without judgment or, perpetuate the apparent problems.
4) You can choose to believe you have gifts and use them or, assume you have nothing worth sharing.
5) As you grow more attuned to yourself and realize your thoughts or behaviour cause suffering in others, you learn about the power of intention. Do you choose to harm or love?
6) Some people will say one thing and live a life that reflects completely different beliefs and values. You choose to compare to others, be hypocritical or, live a life of integrity.
7) Human beings are fallible. As you grow aware you can make better choices, you have the capacity to take responsibility and be accountable for previous behaviour. The alternative is the why me? mentality, and allowing yourself to feel like a victim.
8) Taking initiatives to learn is a choice just like choosing to resist change and expansion is a choice.
9) Consider your conditioned reflexes and apparent instincts. Does it feel natural to be tolerant, understanding and forgiving of others' apparent mistakes or, do you quickly reprimand, anger and hold grudges?
10) Regardless of your perceived conditions, you always have capacity to find blesssings, advantages and good things where you are. This is not the same as reminding yourself you are better off than (or superior to) someone somewhere. Its not an ego thing. Its an invitation to think with the heart and feel withthe mind. As you awaken, be thankful to be alive, grateful for what you have, the love and everything else you are given.
Reader Comments (14)
I like all these points here but found number one very interesting.. It made me think of a life altering incident in my life. A few years ago I learned how this type of control can be acted out by some people who have done it since infancy. But it is not overtly done. They use ONLY body language to control other people. No screaming or yelling or physical threats, etc. It can be so seemingly subtle just a slight shift in tone and body posture, facial expression, rigidity, etc. that controls people around them. It is seeemingly subtle intimidation, but actually far more powerful than many of use realize. Because so many of us have been taught to internalize things it can be over looked or treated as "it must be me".
Once I realized that I had to listen to my body and not my head, and I had to trust what I felt in my gut when around this person I was immediately set free and no longer felt intimidated.
Because this was someone I was working with I decided to gather my courage and speak with them (and they were a very good person). It also occurred to me that maybe no had EVER reached out to them in this way. When I kindly and softly broached the subject they said, "I don't intimidate anyone!" I gently described my gut reaction when I tried to politely talk with them about any challenging situations and the reactions I sensed in others who worked with this person. And VERY gently asked, "Do you really want to move through the world pushing others away from you and controlling them with fear? You're a good person; is that how you want the world to see you? Could it be that you feel afraid or overwhelmed with emotions in certain situations so you send out a controlling intimidating vibe that alarms others and keeps them at bay?" This person was shocked. And said that I was the first person who had EVER cared enough to breech their defense of intimidation. Once they saw it, they said it had been something they had done all their lives. They were so very kind and a total softie underneath the front and even told me how much they respected my courage, that it couldn't have been easy to talk with them. I was deeply moved. I also realized that the "intimidating front" had probably saved their life as a child, because they were such a softie. So deeply sensitive.
What was so beautiful with this person was that they immediately started to turn their life around and in situations that made them uneasy they would say to others, "I'm very uncomfortable right now, very scared, but I don't want to push you away and I will listen. The fear you may feel right now is not yours. It's mind."
Wow!! That blew my mind. I had and have the utmost respect for this person. It was pure magic to see. Talk about a transformation, and for both of us.
This experience became a marker for me. Whenever I felt that same feeling around someone else I was able to better recognize it and deal with it. It also reminded me to NOT be intimidated by others, to be fearless and yet loving. BUT to really look at where the fear is coming from. What is mine, what is another persons, and not to carry what is not mine.
Thank you for continuing to remind me that I can see every situation as a learning experience if I choose. It's becoming more natural too, to choose how I will 'respond'. I find myself about to react and then I pause and ask myself, "Do I really want to go there?" The 'going there' can steal so much energy.
I would add self-reflection and the allowing yourself room to grow and accept who you are rather than what you are. The distinction is in the realization of waking up to your dream self.
All points well taken. Thanks for your meaningful work. Most of the time I'm challenged by something you say. Today I feel I "know" these points. Thanks for helping me grow!
Many thanks - Hilary Melton-Butcher
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