10 Excuses used for withholding the truth and options

More often than you may be ready to admit, you hold back from expressing how you feel, from sharing what you sense and intuit. In essence, you muffle some of your abilities and hesitate or prevent yourself from realizing certain dreams.

Witholding the truth is always potentially a lie, and each new situation calls for a moral decision. Do you keep things to yourself and if so, do you do it out of self-interest, a desire for power, for approval, for the interest of the person from whom information is hidden? Maybe you are not aware of the why. 

Deciding to be more honest with yourself may seem to be an extraordinary task. It would require the never-ending burden of self-discipline. This helps explain why many people decide to live a life of minimal honesty. They brainwash themselves into believing its too hard to change or, not even in their interest.

This said, rewards exist for meeting the challenges of living with integrity. Although your course may seem frequently diverted, or plans suddenly thwarted, you also underestimate rather than overestimate your foresight. And, excuses are not necessarily bad. Consider ten excuses for withholding truth and how similar views help or hinder you;

1) You do not believe you are ready. Something within you may echo you do not have the courage, ability, skills or presumed experience required to go the next step. What you believe becomes your reality. People also read your vibes.

2)You imagine people will criticize. Part of you fears other people will judge or not understand. Yet many people actually share or resonate with you, and also tell themselves nobody else will get it. Your self-doubt leads to misperceptions that may prevent you from connecting with kindred spirits.

3) You assume things are not in your control. If part of you senses untapped skills or potential, then you may reason these things will be sharpened and a plan clarified by fate if you are mean to use them.  Another way to view this is fear of success or failure.  Either way, you remain where you are.

4) You find solace in secretiveness.  Something may appeal about keeping knowledge to yourself.  It is said the meek and humble are wise and silent.  The expression of thoughts, feelings and perceived insight may seem suitably withheld. This is not always for the purpose of self-interest.

5) You fear embarassment. You may have nurtured feelings for someone, or value something you sense others will not value as you do.  You fear your views or feelings will not be appreciated or shared. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

6) You argue timing is everything. Perhpas you are an expert at postponing or putting off decisions.  You may be assesing and re-assessing the capacity of another person to use the information for reasons you would support.  That you contemplate means you resist listening to your gut.  You decide the right time when you relinquish the need to control.

7) You are too proud.  You feel more secure in the thought that you are not contributing to the confusion of the world.  Your opinion of yourself would not permit you to shatter the image you have created. Appearances can be deceiving.

8) Your views conflict with your entourage.  Rather than sense non-conformity is the way to go, you may be willing to sacrifice what feels right for what appears to be right in the minds of people you respect. You choose to put their needs or expectations before your own, whatever the cost.

9) You prefer the hard way.  The more honest you are, the easier it is to continue.  The more lies you tell yourself or others, the harder it is to keep track, and the more necessary it is to keep lying out of fear of being found out.

10) Someone told you to do it.  You may confide your dream, your perspective or sense of the truth to someone who cautions you who to share this with.  The exercise of discipline is demanding insofar as it requires you to be flexible and insightful.  To be free, you must be willing to take responsibility for yourself and also to develop the capacity to reject responsibility that is not your own.  You determine what needs to be organized or feels right as spontaneous.

4 ways to explore your connections with energy

Every person has untapped capacity to better grasp their relationship to energy. What if the essence of your being is pure energy? You illuminate physical existence in matter.  During this life, you personify energy to create an identity.  How you think, feel and act show you evolve to master energy.  How about that?

Beyond this instant, you have many opportunities to connect with other energy forms.  All you require is the energy to do so. Nothing is ever lost. As you transcend the limits of what you think you know now, you create new kinds of interactions.  Consider four ways to explore your connections with energy;

1) Be open to the unconventional. If you believe the power of healing is mysterious enough, then you may choose not to measure or limit the framework of your journey. You may decide your own healing process is not dependent on anything so much as your commitment to grow, adapt and learn.

2) Expand your understanding of love. Feelings are the source of your energy.  They make it possible for you to live as you do.  Genuine love is self-renewing. It involves inner changes and the will to extend oneself rather than sacrifice.  As you love, you grow. You build trust, faith and creative self-discipline.  You realize experiences of suffering can be highly colorful and full of depth while they help you attune to love.

3) Invest energy in spiritual development. As you get-to-know yourself, you learn to contol your thoughts and actions.  You discern intrinsic value of equanimity, experience the peace of being even-tempered and forge your path to inner harmony.

4) Believe the continuence is real.  Vibrations you sense are not the beginning or the end.  They come through you but not from you.  They have their own thoughts.  They introduce you to the immortality of soul and the nature of spiritual existence.  As you evolve, teachers seem to appear.  Their energy has always existed.  You come to perceive it.

“The energy of the mind is the essence of life.” -Aristotle

How to give up what you think you want

Part of you is aware that what you think you want is not always good for you.  How do you choose when to detach from certain desires? When is something potentially destructive behaviour?

1) Foresee results before you act. If you are on a diet, and you truly hope to lose weight, then that yen for a whole chocolate cake does not serve you. It is important to connect how certain behaviours will undermine your desired results so you can learn to discipline your mind differently.

2) Examine the giving-up process.  If you are working to give up an addiction and your mind tells you to feed your habit, then you could fall into a trap.  The reasons which prompted you to start doing something unhealthy offer insight into the imagined pain of stopping.  People rarely resist change for reasons they assume.  Delve deeper to get answers.

3) Look for patterns. If you think you want a relationship with a certain person, but it is not working, and the scenario reminds you of a past relationship, then it is possible you are not consciously aware of a pattern.  Repeated experience of something not working the way you want can create tendency to cling to people who are not good for you. Time to wake up.

4) Listen to your feelings.  If you are asked to do something dishonest in exchange for getting what you think you want, then the means to the end could undermine the goal. Your feelings are a dependable gauge. What feels good, works.  Anything else does not.  Learn to discern the real difference.

Deflate your ego

Analysis of dream submitted by Anonymous in Melbourne, Australia.

Dream- I was speaking to an older, asian man with long white hair, a beard and mustache. He smiled. His whole person inflated like a balloon.I sensed the energy vibration of his dialogue but he faded out of the dream. I re-entered this dream state three separate times and continued varied attempts to communicate with the same man. Yet I was unable to decipher what he was telling me. He was not moving his lips and held his hands clasped beneath lengthy sleeves of his white cloak.

Predominant Emotions- frustration, impatience, courage.

Interpretation- You recognize you have untapped, inner wisdom that is bursting to get out,but part of you still denies this. You are unconsciously struggling against your true self. Learn what it will take to liberate that and deflate your ego.

Human beings are normally only conscious of themselves in dreamsfor brief periods. Yet, it is possible to extend consciousness using mental discipline. Youseem totell yourself that part of you is afraid to allow the dream to proceed to completion. What are you afraid to accept about yourself?

People will deliberately re-enter the same dream because they desire to create a new path, to devise a new resolution or, to add details that were amiss before. As you evolve to grasp the meaning of a given dream, the next step is to apply the wisdom you have gained to your waking life.

Another way to view this dream is at different levels of lucidity. You see through material to view hidden hands, you also consciously take control to enter and exit the dream at will. You know you are dreaming and identify with a kind of mental body floating. You are aware this is a controlled, mental experience but you have not yet mastered how to extract key detail. Through practice, you work to control your attention.

If you believe human beings exist to learn what it means to dedicate themselves to the truth, then you would also believe this implies people grow more willing to confront lies they tell themselves. You are exploring what it means to love and respect your true self. This implies a willingness to self-monitor, to think and feel as accurately as possible the truth or reality as you perceive it. When you lie to others, you also lie to yourself. Develop capacity for openness and truthfulness. Witholding the truth to protect a lie never serves you.

5 ideas to build your self-reliance and redefine dignity

Every human being is unaware of their own gifts that exist on many levels yet remain consciously unacknowledged. Even you are aware of things people are conditioned not to discuss. Part of you may patiently wait for others to discuss them. Part of you is ready and willing to make a different choice.

Even now, you silently reflect on what it means to demonstrate and experience self-respect. You may do this for yourself, for loved ones or strangers who re-evaluate their self-perception during illness and a personal journey to their inner healing. 

Everything in this life teaches you.  You are unconsciously evaluating how you define living with dignity, what kinds of life choices would not offend your view of an acceptable existence. You are judging which lifestyles would work for you, deciding what you would or would not be desirable. You are anticipating based on misperceptions that require attention.

We are each our own prophet, not because we all accept it is possible toforesee the future, but because we are slowly accepting we read energy and signs in the present. We sense what feels right and are acknowledging we have the courage to be more honest with ourselves. Consider these five ideas to build self-reliance and redefine dignity from where you stand;

1) Recognize your own patterns of avoidance of responsibility. To bravely move to assume responsibility for your own perceived problems will humble you, move you, and transform you forever. What do you believe should be done?

2) Acknowledge and explore hidden resentment. The way you choose to live your life, perceive and use time, contributes to your stress and attitude as if you were fueling a fire. What you resent about others reflects hidden things you fear and resent about you.  Which choices no longer resonate with you?

3) Attune to how you perceive and respond. How you are conditioned to experience life is based on learning at a given moment. Yet people carry conditioning like baggage and apply it to situations inappropriately. What would you change next?

4) Notice you are no longer who you were.  What you learn when you have certain faculties, mobility and experience no longer defines your point of reference when your baseline changes. What you are taught at different life stages is not always transferable to others. If your abilities strengthen or weaken, this is simply an invitation to reset your baseline.

5) Choose to rethink what it is to be genuinely loving.  An evolving sense of health and well-being invites you to grow from perceived disappointment.  This means you learn to love yourself despite not always meeting your own expectations, regardless of what other people define as their ideal, freedom, independence or desirable conditions for them.  Only listening to others traps and constricts when you have the power to define your life mission, your sense of dignity every moment.