4 Ways to reactivate your true self
Saturday, February 21, 2009 at 4:59AM As children grow up, they are often conditioned to stop listening to their bodies and to move away from what strengthens their heart and soul. It happens in ways you do not initially notice. Some people hesitate to believe or, never connect how their feelings influence their life choices.
At some point, part of you is aware you wish to reactivate your true self. What does this require? Does part of you say to stop something you have outgrown or start fresh? Maybe a job beckons or new training. Maybe relationships call for attention. You may shirk responsibility for financial, biological, spiritual or other reasons. Part of you realizes what you put off. As you raise awareness, details of the what and why resurface;
1) Absorb the truth in your words. You may not be used to speaking with confidence and dignity you would like to feel. As you listen closer to your word choices, what do they tell you about youf? Are you happy where you are? If not, what next? Words are powerful indicators about balance and direction.
2) Note what is human and universal. Those situations that cause you to feel awkward, embarassed or ashamed are frequently what connects you to everyone. Each experience invites you to find humor, lightness and delight in apparent discomfort. What bothers you is the key to releasing tension.
3) Refuse to hide. The nature of what you hide from others and repress from conscious awareness is a gauge for feelings that merit attention. For some people, it is unacknowledged grief. For others, it is suppressed passion or creative freedom. The decision to open up to self is a step toward being more honest with others. Revisit what you deem appropriate now.
4) Reframe challenges. What you assume will be painful, risky, tiring or not worth it, could all be your own misplaced assumptions. How do you validate or legitimize your experience? Some people complain about adveristy to get attention, and this makes their effort worthwhile. Other people are content in the silence of their own inner knowing that certain choices feel right. Deeper meaning always exists.
Reader Comments (16)
I think much of the world is based on assumptions. We assume things that are not there to get things we don't want. If we assume there is going to be pain involved, we will inadvertently keep ourselves back or down. It's not until we break through assumptions that we can break through fear and feel free.
Peace
I love # 4!
Yes, we must be childlike in our approach to risk, thereby eliminating the fear associated with them.
We can often think we are protecting someone else by "hiding" or not revealing the truth in some way or another, but we are really trying to protect ourselves from any number of things, but usually the bottom line is "fear of ___."
The other day a friend confessed to me something she had lied about to me and several others. After she told me, and I wasn't at all upset, she said, "Wow you aren't angry with me?" And I said, "No, why would I be angry with someone who is finding the courage to reveal their authentic self. I do not want anyone to wear lies for me. Even if they are lies already told; it is never to late to unload them and move into your authentic self. "
It was a very exciting shift for her and a very touching moment for me. To embrace human nature in all of it's complexities is such a freeing thing. To allow ourselves and others to come out of hiding frees everyone involved. We begin to realize that we are much more alike that we previously believed. We allow for our humanity and more importantly for fresh new growth. We become what we already are. Thank you, Liara.
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