10 ways to take charge of your life

Many people would like to take more of an active role in defining their destiny. They do not always realize they can do this anytime they choose. You design and revise road maps of choices. Consider these ten ways to take charge of your life;

1) Notice how you think. The subjects you hone in on offer signs about what makes sense to you. Was it someone who drew your attention there? Learn to listen to your core self.

2) Realize thoughts shape feelings. It takes practice to sift throughthoughts andconnect them to how you feel. Even nothing comes from somewhere. Learn to recognize the shape you are in relates directly to what you choose to feel.

3) Decode your fears. As you learn to focus on the present, you begin to sense a new level of mindfulness. It becomes possible to discern the difference between healthy fight-or-flight response to valid threats and unnnecessary worries. Learn to detect and dissolve fearful imaginings that distract.

4) Align focus with intention. If you are unclear where you are or where you are going, it is more difficult tochannel your energy in meaningful ways. Getting to know yourself empowers focus. Realign thoughts and feelings with deliberate intent.

5) Be straight. You may have heard talkers and doers exist. Do you talk directly to people who bother you or avoid confrontations? As you learn to be more honest with yourself, talking comes more easily. Learn the meaning of core honesty.

6) Shift away from complaining. Listen closely.When you speak or write, is your reflex tobelittle or downplay efforts torave with enthusiasm? Negative energy drains your power. Learnall thought and feeling is controlled withdiscipline.

7) Switch from being problem-focused to solutions-oriented. Growing awareness allows you to realize the nature and slant of your perceptions. When your mind wanders to obstacles, you benefit from learning how and when to stop.

8) Recognize all emotions are your friends. Raising consciousness helps you realize that all emotions teach you. As you learn to let go of expectations and labelsfor particular emotions, you realize that each offers you valuable insight.

9) Stop ignoring your physiology. Your body constantly sends you signals about your health and well-being. Your heart rate, level of fatigue, temperature and energy are sample physical messages. When you feel under the weather, this draws attention toareas that require more attention.

10) Release self-defense mechanisms.More often than you realize, your mind goes on the defensive. People will say things and your conditioned impulse will be to correct, toprove your right, and establish some level of superiority. In truth, doing nothing takes charge. Learn to channel energy wisely.

10) Accept you are unaware of all answers. Although its said all answers lie within the self, that does not mean every person accesses all his own inner wisdom all at once. Learning to take charge of your life is a process. As you evolve to keep perspective, you nurture hope and self-acceptance. They empower you to transcend unwanted conditions and mindsets.

Build faith in your success

Your day evolves, moment-by-moment, not based on what you do, but on how you think and how aware you are in any kind of circumstance.  The nature of confidence and trust that you are building within yourself brings you back to the present and the reality of your success.  What do you fathom as implications?

1) Success is now.  People often convince themselves that success is a thing to work toward in the future. They forget time obscures reality and reasons to be grateful. To disregard measures of time enables you to tap into synchonicity.

2) Perception limits reality. How you think about where you are shapes how you view what you do and whether you choose to change. Your perception shifts as you consciously recognize you limit success to what is measured by your familiar senses.

3) Purpose deepens before it is grasped. Learning more about who you are is the underlying reason for everything.  Achieving what you set out to accomplish draws attention to outcomes. You uncover two, inter-related core motivations.

4) Inner alignment is expanding. As you move to focus on quality rather than quantity in experience, you begin to realize you dwell on energy that acts as the backdrop of everything.  Your field of awareness is expanding beyond self-created limits. Success loses its form and you sense loving feelings.

5) Awareness is the key focus. The nature of your journey evolves from this moment and everything you discern about it. To feel capable of linking more than one view of success is part of transformation. You reconcile mental, physical and spiritual growth and grow aware of interconnectedness.

6) Cycles reshape success. Transitions are always unfolding. Every event is created so that some new experience arises. Each stage invites learning.  You become more and then feel like less. You gain possessions, experiences, relationships and gradually lose, sell or give them all away.  Life grows and contracts and the physical body does the same. You are form now and return to formless worlds from whence you came.

7 Tips for coping & disallowing

Emotions can stun and paralyze you yet, they also energize and renew you. People are often unaware of the choices they have. You can learn how not to keep situations alive in your mind.

At this moment, you can choose to move beyond thoughts and feelings.  They do not have to shape your identity.  People shoulder unnecessary emotional bagage. This is not who you are. You are still in the process of figuring out the truth.

Every person goes through stages of limiting himself by using negativity, complaints, grievances, guilt, anger or regret. When part of you clings to emotions, they seem to be who you are. Consider 7 tips for coping with what does not serve you;

1) Raise self-awarenss. Many approaches exist to open your senses and faculties.  The majority of people live in an imagined reality. When you act to discover yourself through things, this creates attachment and prevents you from being aware.  Determine where it would help you to shift focus.

2) Believe change is possible. Nothing you have done in your perceived past can prevent you from being present now. Presence is that state of mind which enables you to step beyond ego, inadequacy, fear or, what holds you back from feeling less than you are. Youmove beyond disbelief to faith.

3) Guide yourself with love. Whenever some situation is not explored, understood, accepted and the energy dissolved, the resulting energy forms a chain. This false sense of who you aregrows into whatyou believe is your life. To choose to love yourself empowers you to work through anything.

4) Take back your inner power. A common reaction is to share your story and portray a victim who has given away power or, certain levels ofresponsibility. You may have felt wronged, compelled to defend a position.Many people engage in imaginary or mentaldialogue, accusing or directing energy away from yourself. This is an emotionally-draining exercise.

5) Discern energy differently. Each thought and feeling isa packet of energy you are creating and discharging. This process has causes and every cause has its effects.As you become more aware of those things you consciously identify with, you get closer to grasping how the ego and mind operate.

6) Realize who you are does not diminish. People are conditioned to quantify and measure to determine a sense of value and self-worth.  They visualize needs and forget they do not become less human, less desirable, or in any way dminished by not satisfying perceived needs.  Everyone is in an ongoing process of learning to let go of people, objects, relationships and anything they come to value. Each is a test. 

7) Rediscover the joy of being.  Theory differs from practice and thoughts differ from experience. The ego only knows thought because this is what it is.  Whatever your mind attaches to becomes important, becomes a substitute for what you do not permit yourself to feel. As you begin to recognize you are never attached to anything except for in your mind, you rediscover the joy of being. You forget reasons for bad energy. You move beyond ego to explore consciousness.

How to give up what you think you want

Part of you is aware that what you think you want is not always good for you.  How do you choose when to detach from certain desires? When is something potentially destructive behaviour?

1) Foresee results before you act. If you are on a diet, and you truly hope to lose weight, then that yen for a whole chocolate cake does not serve you. It is important to connect how certain behaviours will undermine your desired results so you can learn to discipline your mind differently.

2) Examine the giving-up process.  If you are working to give up an addiction and your mind tells you to feed your habit, then you could fall into a trap.  The reasons which prompted you to start doing something unhealthy offer insight into the imagined pain of stopping.  People rarely resist change for reasons they assume.  Delve deeper to get answers.

3) Look for patterns. If you think you want a relationship with a certain person, but it is not working, and the scenario reminds you of a past relationship, then it is possible you are not consciously aware of a pattern.  Repeated experience of something not working the way you want can create tendency to cling to people who are not good for you. Time to wake up.

4) Listen to your feelings.  If you are asked to do something dishonest in exchange for getting what you think you want, then the means to the end could undermine the goal. Your feelings are a dependable gauge. What feels good, works.  Anything else does not.  Learn to discern the real difference.

3 Ways to go further than harness potential

People write to me asking what is the best way for them to share their experience in order to inspire hope, goodwill and the realization of dreams. Some bloggers specifically ask how they can inspire more strength and determination or, how best to meet the needs of their particular audience.

If your core motivation is to connect with people, you will discover many ways exist to do this. As a budding chef of life experience, you learn to go by feel, taste and improvise.

As I develop articles, I have come to realize that a number of things are going on inside and around me to help me do my best. Consider these ideas that empower you to live life on your terms and go further than harness your potential;

1)  Realize you are a work in progress. You are constantly building on your communication skills.  As part of the process, this means you you are sharing new learning consciously and unconsciously. Its all good, even if you do not register it all.

2) Recognize power in deliberate intention.  As you consciously visualize or imagine how you wish your efforts to affect people, this sends energy pulses out into the universe. Think about a wave that comes into shore and goes back out to sea.  You lose visual sight of it, but the power and energy still exists somewhere and transfers it somewhre else.

2) Do what you do from the heart. This matters. If you write with thoughts about what your readers may or may not like, then you are not allowing your thoughts to flow naturally. As you teach yourself to stop thinking about approval or disproval or the possible usefulness of your experiences for others, then you begin to realize everything you say or do has intrinsic value for someone. The more you choose to love and accept yourself, the less you will think what others think.