6 Ways to feel good where you are

How often are you tempted to assume the worst? You see someone approaching and assume you must be in trouble or, hear about a forecast storm and already imagine accidents and fatalities, or being unable to get to work. Someone ill you know may be resigned to a negative outcome.  What about you?

When an event unfolds, does it suddenly evoke discomfort? Does your mind wander to thoughts that spiral out of control? If this reminds you of someone, these ideas are worth sharing. Consider six ways to feel good about your present conditions;

1) Realize choices exist. People can decide to feel happy for no particular reason just as they can choose to get upset or depressed about being where they are not. You live the life you imagine into being. To realize you exert power over your thoughts changes everything. No outcome is carved in stone.

2) Seek beyond the obvious.  The sleuth in you already knows blessings are found in not getting a particular job, being overlooked for a promotion, rejected for a training program or whatever prevents you from realizing a goal.  Not getting what your conscious mind thought you wanted brings you closer to what you are meant to be doing now. Events enable you to reframe experiences and stretch your mind. 

3) Transcend emotions. Whenever you permit emotions to control you other than love and compassion, you are being distracted by something irrelevant to the bigger picture.  That is, fear, doubt, anger, frustration and the like, are based on misunderstanding. Simply shift focus.  Deeper messages are conveyed. Choose to look inside self to find what you need.

4) Address limits of human perception.  As you evolve, you grasp human beings do not perceive everything that is happening.  Many more events are unfolding than the human mind registers and understands in human terms.  Knowing this, you begin to see it makes sense not to jump to foregone conclusions related to fragments of reality you discern.

5) Every possibility already exists.  All knowledge, all discoveries, all mindsets, all verdicts and creations, are dormant energy waiting to be summoned by the human mind.  They exist in a formless realm until someone thinks them into form.  You draw from the universal mind by raising your awareness of it. Dr John Hagelin says, "All you have to do is hold your mind on the end result and imagine it filling a need, and you call it into being.  As you ask, feel and believe, you will receive." Love is always the answer to every question.

6) Accept you get what you need.  Views of needs that stem from ego are superficial and misguided. To believe you want something may in fact overlook what kinds of life experiences you truly require.  As you evolve to view each experience as a test of resilience, resourcefulness and wisdom, you gain more far from your own silence and self-reflection.

How do you learn to experience joy?

If you wish to know joy, then you must decide joy exists and accept you deserve it. Some people have no memory of joy, do not believe they deserve joy or, believe life is not meant to be joyful. You may have your own mental blocks to dissolve or overcome.

As you evolve to believe you attract joy, then you will also discover you create it. You learn to be actively and passively joyful. You choose to be aware or not. You may notice when you create these feelings or not. If you do not choose to notice, then it does not mean joy is not within. Your mindset may not be ready to consciously accept that.

To find joy everywhere, you must be prepared to believe that joy takes many more forms than you consciously discern. You must be willing to adapt your perception and accept that joy is more or different than you thought. It is not only what you feel as a reflex or reward after certain experiences. Your current associations and conditioning prevent you from experiencing joy continually.Perpetual joy is available to every being. Part of you believes you are only meant to evoke positive feelings under limited circumstances. And yet, joy is a form of serenity of the soul that is ever-present and ever-beckoning. Joy is not something deserved or not. You are your own judge. Joy and judge exist within. It is your choice to find it, experience it or, not. Why conceal your own intrinsic self-worth, confidence, faith and trust? When people do not grasp how spiritual forces work, they convince themselves they are unable to build unconditional happiness. Who told you it’s not possible, appropriate, suitable or achievable? Ask yourself what kind of life that person leads. People often project their own fear and ignorance. If someone tells you love does not exist because they do not live it, remind yourself opinion is not truth. Regardless of your experience, you can evolve to realize every event, every choice you make, is a step toward a different understanding of joy and happiness. You choose every perception and focus of every relationship and circumstance. People with health problems or other crises can choose rediscover meaning and motivation in life or, reinforce their negative beliefs and feelings of despair. At a given moment, you decide who to listen to and what subjects will make sense. Part of you always knows and experiences joy. Part of you also deprives yourself of positive feelings for your own ends. You are invited to adopt what serves you and to disregard what does not. It is a process. Another way of viewing things is to sense every spark of joy you experience consciously is a way to dissolve what joy is not. For example, if you reflect on a situation in your life that evoked sad or negative feelings, that same situation can be viewed as a path to experiencing greater happiness. Your points of reference change. Your feelings deepen and intensify. The nature of joy expands. It touches everything and everyone. You experience joy and nothing else whenever you choose.

What do you do about conflict?

You may dream of a peaceful situation where you always see eye-to-eye with people or, at least feel understood.  Yet, it can be hard to keep your spirits up when people you know desire to debate or disagree.   What do you do about conflict?

Realize conflict begins and ends in your mind.  Accept that you can agree to disagree.  No single idea will appeal to everyone all of the time.  Each person is at a differnt stage of growth based on life experience.  It is not your job to impose your views, prove that you are right or, to educate based on your values.  Similarly, you can be tolerant of others without adopting all they say.

You can freely offer your perspective.  You learn who to share views with and from whom to withold them.  This is not about keeping secrets.  It is about learning to sense where you relate to others and where you do not.   It does not generate positive energy to condemn people or to think negative thoughts.  Each person has the freedom to think and feel and resolve what he or she chooses. Some people do not desire to resolve issues.

How much are you worth?

Every human being is working on issues of self-love and self-esteem.  You are too, or you would not exist in the physical world right now.  Placing value on how you expend your perceived time and energy may seem a daunting task.  This goes beyond the quandry of how much to charge for your services if that happens to relate to your work.  Placing value on how you serve is one of the most challenging questions people find to answer.

From my own experience, part of my learning curve has been to accept assistance from others when there was no way to repay them.  It was not simply an issue of money, but a lesson in the value of giving without the desire to receive in return.  It has always felt great for me to give and not always receive back, but even that experience to an extreme taught me the immeasurable value of reciprocity.

Human beings can develop guilt complexes about being on the receiving end of love.  To recognize and confront your own resistance about accepting helps you gain priceless insight into yourself.  The idea of 'how much you are worth?' is not really a valid question. 

Each time you doubt you deserve attention or love, you are draining your own life energy and denying your own needs.  Extreme denial or complete surrender to love energy reveal different sides to your personality.  As you move away from the material answer of your tangible value, you approach the spiritual truth of yoru intrinsic worth.  How deeply you explore this in yoru thoughts and feelings, will greatly strengthen your positive thinking.

Where is the good in it?

Wherever you are, whatever you do, something good escapes you.  That's right! You are in the process of raising awareness about hidden benefits of where you are, how you think and feel.  Even criticism offers reason to feel good, if you choose to grow.

In all likelihood, you only gradually allow yourself to realize this because you know you will appreciate it more.  It is as if you value the suspense, the build up of positive energy.  When will you unleash that? You will do so at the moment that makes the most sense, when you have learned more patience.  The good is the lessons you learn by choice.

Rest assured, good is a feeling evoked in you every moment.  Goodness is the unwavering love within.  It surrounds you as light energy.  Goodness is what you feel when you remind people of their own kind-hearted soul, even when they forget they have one.  It is invisible gratitude, an intangible thanks for doing more than words can say.

You have the power to draw goodness out of yourself and others.  You may encourage yourself and help others see love where they missed it before.  The good in that is immeasurable, priceless and bursting with intrinsic value that defies words.