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Liara Covert, Ph.D
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"Love everything. Be fully present. All doors are open."- Liara Covert
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Resistance is fear in disguise. It has the power to stop you dead in your tracks, stagnate your growth, limit your perception and understanding. Notice specific experiences you reach for or deny yourself right now. Whenever you say you postpone anything, far more is going on.
Hesitation is fear in action. Fear arises when something threatens your comfort zone. You may tell yourself you do not have the time, the money, the freedom, the right mindset, adequate insight, to take advantage of what is presenting. Its all fear taking shape as excuses. Telling yourself why you cannot do something simply reinforces the fear that holds you hostage. The moment is here to address this and move through it.
Review these 12 ways to master your fear:
1. Shift focus from the future
Your fear is always about assumptions on what’s going to happen next. Thus, your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent, your fear is completely unfounded, imaginary. The future is always pointing and guiding you to the present moment where intuition is the most reliable guide. If you have the urge to act, fear only holds you back if you are unconscious to the mind's tricks.
2. Decide why you are here
You must decide whether you are on this planet to experience life or avoid life. If you exist to experience life, intensity is required. Without it, you are not living fully. Using fear as a tool to protect yourself reduces the energy flow available to you to create. Once the visceral is gone, you are no longer really living. You only live based on mental ideas or heresay. You cannot experience anything fantastic and ecstatic. When you are fearful, you cannot experience wild abandon. You cannot sing, dance, laugh, cry, fall inor lose yourself in love. You cut yourself off from what makes you feel alive. You only sit, grieve, regret not taking risks.
3. Get comfortable with the unknown
Admit it. You are taught to feel comfortable with the familliar, with what is predictable, or perceived 'normal' though no such thing exists. The more you accept life is energy in motion where nothing is permanent or predictable, the more you realize you are living with the unknown every moment and doing just fine. Be conscious of this and watch your perception of fear transform into excitement about the unknown.
4. Let go of the urge to control
HUmans are taught that unless we can exert control, we must fear. But is it possible to ever have control? Even if you can swim, you can drown. A professional musician or experienced chef can still make mistakes. Give up the illusion of control, and you are free.
5. Surrender
Surrender to what is is powerful, even if it seems 'way out there.' because as long as we try to change what is, we allow the mind's filtered version of reality convince us that is real. In doing so, we cut oursleves off from far more.
6. Get rooted in reality
When you are not rooted (grounded) in reality, suffering happens. Suffering is always about that which does not exist. When not rooted in reality, you are always rooted in your mind. Mind is – one part of it is memory, another part of it is imagination. Both of them are in one way imagination, because both of them don’t exist right now. You’re lost in your imagination, that’s the basis of your fear. If you were rooted in reality, there would be no fear. If you are suffering the non-existential, we call that insanity. So, people may be in just socially accepted levels of insanity, but if you’re afraid or if you’re suffering anything which does not exist, it amounts to insanity,
7. Consult a Life Coach
Do you fear success or fear failure? A good life coach can help you examine what you truly want from life, and guides you to pinpoint the true origin of your fears. Its crucial to be clear on what you really want and what is actually holding you back. Commit to loving the process.
8. Read & Listen
Reading a book, scanning relevant webpages or listening to podcasts that touch on your specific fear can open new doors on how you can get rid of it. Access motivational and inspirational work or glimpses of workshops about topics you recognize you are avoiding.
9. Get into the flow
Inactivity can be a sign from your inner guidance system telling you that you still have preparation to do. If you tell yourself you cannot do something due lack of income, it helps to see everything as the flow of the same energy. Taking action to generate income begins with loving yourself and being true to who you are. Loving more, doing what you love and seeing everything as energy in motion, allows flow to happen.
10. Watch films & Youtube videos
Watching a movie, documentary or Youtube videos can be eye-opening. Sometimes it’s nice to distract yourself from your fear, but if you really want to, you can find loads of movies on the fear you’re dealing with and empower yourself to see your fear from a completely new perspective.
11. Identify the lesson
Fears are pointers to lessons we create for soul growth. Overcoming fear involves learning related lessons and moving ahead. The Path of life is about identifying lessons, accepting and expressing more of yourself. This shapes all areas of your life; relationships, career, and far more.
12. Model a master
Connect with a person or people who have experienced the fear you have and also moved beyond it. Spend time with them, ask how they did it, and explore whether this approach could work for you. Discuss the nature of the process. You can learn a lot about yourself and the emerging master within.
Every person you encounter is drawing your attention to something you are not yet noticing about yourself. You may be in a plane, train, taxi, bus or some other mode of transport. You may meet in passing at the local library or bookstore, be sitting in a park, or you may be out walking your pet. Revelations arise as you stand in line waiting to be served and you chat with strangers. You may be sitting next to another parent at your child's sports event. Nothing is ever random. Everything and everyone is a pointer. Notice what is emerging through each encounter. You create them all to help yourself. Notice what you see, feel and experience.
Be aware each encounter is a guide and mirror. See the appropriateness of them. Every choice you make has a purpose. You decide what matters. You decide how the guidance unfolds in your life; in passing, triggering eureka moments, evolving into intimacy, friendships or connecting with temporary or lifelong mentors. Each one is a window. Retreat into your own natural stillness. Get the message you reach for right now.
This morning, in a public place, a friend of mine lost her 22 month old toddler. This woman was frantic. It appeared to her as if everyone around her appeared unaware or simply minded their own business. A few people were helping but not panicking. As my friend raced around, looking high and low, her focus shifted from composure to fear. I reassured her and yet she felt time was running out and so, started calling the police.
Even so, I continued to search the immediate area. Soon afterwards, I discovered the child happy as can be. This toddler had innocently wandered out of a busy library, unnoticed by a manned reception desk, by automatic doors to the street, run down a corridor, by an open toy library, passed doors to toilets and by people before entering a playgroup area. The child easily blended in and started playing with toys. This child continued acting as if all is well. How you would respond in her mom's shoes? Feel relieved by a hug and move on? Come what may, are you always calm as a cucumber? Or do you struggle to let go of fear?
Very often the body is here, but the mind is not. It gets caught in the net of uncertainty. It is not totally here. The past is totally gone and future not yet here. Breathe mindfully to focus on the present. The next time you are fearful, follow your breath. You touch the miracle and insight of being alive. Exhale tension, fear, anger, regret and guilt in the body.
It may surprise you that nobody in the area responded as if a wandering toddler is out of the ordinary. Even the adults near their children attending playgroup did not look for a missing parent. Its not about others though, is it? Its about how each of us responds to the situations life throws our way. Every situation offers lessons. We can be grateful for guardian angels, and focus on knowing all is well, or assume the worst. Notice visions triggered in the mind.
What causes you to shift away from peace of mind? What do you take away from situations that scare you? Who or what prompts you to lose your cool and freak out? How is each new focus of attention a true gift? When are you 'calm, cool and collected?'
“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.” -Steve Marboli
"God is happiness and available twenty four hours a day." - Andre Gide
Every moment, perceptions and experiences invite each of us to recognize available lessons. Notice what stands out for you. Be aware thoughts, emotions and beliefs interpret circumstances. Observe how emotions shape your experience. At any given moment, you are open and closed to certain ways of being, seeing and experiencing who and what you are. Three questions to ask and answer are:
1) What are you allowing and resisting? 2) What do you love and what do you fear? 3) What are you seeing and not picking up with physical senses?"Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him."
-Aldous Huxley