Isolate your real sense of success

Your sense of success is something that evolves with you.  It can be silent and unassuming or more obvious, depending on your level of self-awareness. 

You may define success by what you think you have or how you feel.  You may define success by a string of accomplishments or developing the ability to stop thinking, period.  It all depends on your frame of reference.  Are you prepared to live according to the natural flow of spontaneous events or, is your success vision driving you elsewhere?

1) Who inspires or motivates you?  You are invited to take an honest look at your thinking and choices and how they create imbalance. The people who inspire you offer practical tools to reframe who you are and how you live.  You can choose to compare yourself or, move beyond judgment.  Discern qualities and traits that matter.

2) How do these people make connections and build relationships?  Recognize that similar traits can be developed in yourself.  As you learn to examine the nature of your own relationships and results rather than things and time, you begin to grasp  clues to the behavioral changes which will transform your life, your outlook and your experiences.

3) Why clarify your values and priorities?  You can learn to reframe and deal effectively with adversity.  Challenges can be understood as your chosen view which can be changed.  Decide you will shift focus from what is unneccessary or unimportant. 

Create positive coincidences

To learn to step back and view your life from a third person perspective is to see parts of yourself in every encounter and relationship.  Why would you wish to do do this? 

Part of your life mission is to learn to review aspects of your life without having your ego involved.  Such a conscious move toward greater objectivity will enable you to experience increased empathy.  It will also empower you to make a more honest assessment of where you are, how you view yourself, and where you wish to be.

What would it take for you to come to grips with the idea your mind shapes the reality you choose outside yourself? When have you sensed your thoughts and beliefs determine where you are?  Imagine the nature of your positive transformation as you realize you have the power to make significant changes in how you behave and what you value.

Events are in a process of unfolding.  Nothing is unconnected.  Many things are within your control.  From the moment you realize you can get excited about sources of meaning in your life, you are already redefining your own version of success.   You exist by choice.  Your decisions to perceive, interpret and learn are part of your mission.

What are you trying to prove?

You may be unsure how you would define your sense of success. Perhaps you wonder whether the way you approach the subject now could or should change. As you go through your process of self-reflection, it will help to eliminate what success isn't:

1) Success isn't defined by what you do. The nature of your work isn't an accurate measure of self-worth. Your identity isn't based on the category or label you get in relation to your source of income. Success isn't something you gradually achieve based on your level of responsibility, social status, military rank, position, employer, pension fund or, degree of external approval that evaluates your performance. If you earn a lot of money or a little money, this doesn’t translate into a lot or a little success. Its not allocated based on seniority. Its revealed based on whether you learn to do what you do to the best of your ability.

2) Success isn't guaranteed (or not) by your Alma Matter. The institutions that provide you certain kinds of training or education are no guarantees of a sense of success. Reputation is something you evolve to create for yourself based on your own choices and behavior in "the real world." People who have little or no formal education also create their version of success. It’s not the courses, internships or apprenticeships that bring you success, but how you apply your free will, develop a thirst for knowledge and take advantages of opportunities to learn.

3) Success for you isn't assured by your family, friends or colleagues. The people you choose to form your entourage are not your gauge for success. You choose the treatment you will accept or reject and the people who help you set these guidelines. You evolve to delimit or extend your emotional boundaries. You decide what it takes to inspire you to feel good. You decide when to forge relationships or to strengthen those you already have. You always learn from other people and their life experience. Yet, how your personality unfolds, the skills you choose develop or not are what enable you to savor life your way. Success isn't something you can measure by the quantity or lifestyle of friends and relations. You have nothing to prove. You just are.

In essence, success is defined by how you create your wounds and transform your fears. It grows as you evolve to love and accept everything about you, including all qualities and traits, all your past choices and perceived mistakes or "learning experiences." A sense of success will intensify as you stop judging strengths and weaknesses, stop highlighting what you falsely assume is missing, lacking or rejected about yourself. Success is your awareness of the effective healing process within yourself. You are worthy. You are loved, heard and appreciated as you are. How prepared you are to confront your own issues determines the healing that occurs and how you view and experience success. Learning how to rebalance on a conscious level is part of the process of self-discovery.

What if your success is measured by pure joy?

Some people believe a sense of success is directly proportional to the joy you feel at a given time. That is, to develop conscious, deliberate awareness of what contributes to your joy shapes your perception of success.  You are free to choose your thoughts.  Discern whether your thoughts and beliefs are compatible and complimentary. 

Let's say its not physical objects or experiences that define your success.  Rather, its emotions evoked by the process and your visions of the way you would like things to be.  Your mind and physical body emit signals with intent.  You either adapt to align or do not align.  You either accept lulls and also temporary periods of satisfaction or, you take steps to better understand  what you want, why and how to generate good vibes more often.  If the latter would be your personal preference, where would you begin?

1) Raise awareness of your energy vibration. You may not yet really sense who you are, or where you're going.  You may not yet realize you are a vibrational being that attracts a vibrational reality.  Everything around you is energy.  Your focus determines what you attract.  To reconnect with who you are and understand the reasons that evoke joy within, you need to evolve to consciously perceive and align your vibrations. 

2) Connect with your non-physical, inner being. To connect with your soul will enable you to recognize your unconditional love, value and worthiness.  Your emotions are your guidance system.  How well you know yourself relates to how attuned you are to your emotions and the reasons that evoke them.  The intensity and frequency of your joy are vibrationally-related.  Nothing is more life-transforming than realizing where you are and how you feel differ from where you want to be and how you imagine feeling.  Choosing to re-align your energy means you begin to consciously accept who you are.  If you do not tend to this soul connection, nothing you do will create forms of success that satisfy you.

3) Learn to recognize when you are connected to your inner self.  How attuned you are to your thoughts influences how attuned you are to your feelings and whether or not they're vibrationally-compatible.  How you feel about your thoughts detemines what happens in your life.  To deliberately control feelings, means to mold your feelings, to make vibrational shifts up to more desirable levels.  Although other people may inspire or motivate you, only you can achieve conscious awareness of your feelings and inner being. You need is clarity of thought.   Beliefs and thoughts must become compatible.

4) Deliberately choose emotions that align you with your soul.  The sooner you realize when you are not aligned wiht positive emotions, the sooner you can take steps to change.  How you feel is your constant gauge of harmony or dischord with your desire or vision for success.  You can sense whether you lean toward abundance or whether negative emotions control you. If your belief isn't compatible with your desire, then you will not achieve it or experience joy.  Its not hard to activate beliefs that harmonize with your desires.  When you do, you will sense increased joy.

5) Relish the feeling of desire.  Through your interaction with contrast and variety, you envision and create new forms of joy.  Your habits of thought may differ greatly from the thought you decide you want.  Dominant, activated beliefs are what bring you more thoughts like it. The more you focus on a subject, the more you think, talk or, express feelings about it, the more active that vibration becomes, and the more similar thoughts and experiences are drawn to it.   Relish feelings you want to project and create them.

Move beyond the Matrix

Some people sense success is basically learning to accept whatever ideas arise in the mind, while recognizing you are a silent observer of what transpires.  Yet, what if the prospect of bending a spoon with the mind is an invitation to step back and recognize that everything is possible with a light heart?

Recall the character Neo in the film The Matrix.  As he begins to let go of doubt, limited view of his physical senses, he deconstructs his memories, and accepts all is possible.  Like Neo, we each become the vibrational equivalent of what we ask for in our world.  Its common to discover we didn't really want what our minds project. Though not everyone chooses to move beyond the Matrix.

How is it a human being can evolve to observe and experience directly without getting influenced by emotion,  and the ego desire to judge?  You may sense heat, pressure, tension and other perceptions, aren't necessarily controlled by your body or mind.  How does that shake your world?  You begin to sense motivation is not required to accept where you are and what you can do.

People are conditioned to focus on steps they think are required to succeed. Yet, who asks you to perform the tasks? Why do anything?  What drives you?  If suffering, fear and desire don't capture your full attention, then you come to observe and master the mind. To stop running backward and forward allows you to savor this moment. 

At a basic level, success is a kind of pure observation.  You needn't be directed or driven by thoughts.  You needn't grasp them intensely or shy away out of fear.  This mindfulness is not indifference. Yet, it means you move beyond ordinary attention.  You discover the nature and underlying motives of thoughts themselves. You unleash a child-like impulse to simply live and love for the joy of it.