5 Tips to Release Fear-based confusion

Fear-based confusion is when intuition knows you are ready to make a big life change but feel too confused or postpone taking action you know feels right.  The ego has you believe in obstacles, unknowns, reasons why-not, or other people involved you “should” put first. Thus, resistance has the upper hand. You may hover between a rock and hard place.

Does this sound familiar? Maybe you contemplate a career change, a geographic move, parenthood, ending a relationship or committing to one, organizing your finances, jumpstarting a new project, a health regimen.  Most relate to gut-wrenching confusion in some form or life area, and it can affect stress, anxiety, breathing rhythm the state of your identity.

In my own life, I’ve come to notice confusion arises as a symptom of fear, and awareness of the bigger picture can help us reclaim power, reduce stress, anxiety and help us reverse escalating emotion. As a general rule, the more important certain decisions are to your soul's evolution, the stronger the resistance you will feel. Rest assured, nobody is alone or helpless in their journey. Turns out, fear-based confusion is manageable.  In fact, it brings surprising insight and wisdom.  Consider 5 tips to release fear-based confusion:

 1. Identify what brings you joy

If fear holds you back, identify what brings you joy.  Explore what evokes uplifting feelings and aliveness.  For example, instead of trying to answer the question, “What should I do with my life?” ask, “What can I do that evokes joy right now?” Follow the trail of excitement, gratitude and appreciation for yourself, and existence. Know that sources of joy naturally shift and change as we grow.  We are each meant to be here now. As we focus on what evokes deep joy, the clouds of confusion disappear.  Clarity arises naturally.

2. Let go of "little things" that you outgrow

Giving up some activity, like a hobby you do not like anymore, or reducing portions of dessert, is much less daunting than making bigger life changes too fast. Taking things step-by-step helps you see what is possible, builds your confidence to tackle bigger things.  In addition, it leaves room for expansion and freedom to grow. As Michael Singer eches, "Letting go of fear is not letting go of life."

3. Decide on direction

Be clear on some direction. Making a clear decision is the quickest way out of confusion.  This may sound obvious, but self-doubt can be a slippery slope. Believe in yourself enough to make a decision. Know that "right" and "wrong" decisions do not exist. What matters is how we feel where we are. For example, you may not know what career you want after school yet love travel and may do so as a way of soul searching. You may not know if you want to continue in a job/ company so may take a sabbatical or retain a coach.  Doing something is a step to guide yourself in the best direction.

4.  Release expectations 

Some people tell themselves only to take a risk or decision when they feel they control the whole process. They immediately search for something that feels secure in the face of change; a new home, job, relationship, hobby or situation to move into before finlly cutting ties to the previous conditions. Yet, life does not work that way. Truth is, change happens more smoothly when we take ourselves out of it, surrender to the unknown. You can set an intention, but magic happens beyond our control.  The element of trust has a place here.

5. Trust the Universe

Once you make the initial decision, the Universe will start to provide you with people and experiences that help you move forward. Breathe.  Tune into awareness, how your decision feels in your body, and act on whatever option has a sense of lightness and openness to it. To leave the details to the Universe allows us to focus on the present, how we feel right now rather than making joy depend on a certain outcome. Recall vulnerability is strength.  Feeling vulnerable is part of embracing change. Befriend confusion and recognize the gift it is. Once you take the first step, everything else falls into place.  Its the divine plan.

Yoga frees all that is false

(Visionary art by Ivan Blažetić Šumski)

Notice the process of yoga is freeing everything that is false. The more we engage in soul yoga, the more layers fall away. At some point, it hits we are not the body or the mind, we are consciousness. From the moment it dawns you are pure consciousness that pre-existed before the body and will continue to exist after the death of the body, you enter a very different state of consciousness. This deeper understanding is free from constraints of death, fear of abandonnment, fear of loneliness, all the psychological defenses of the ego that keep us questioning, doubting, seeking. When ready, it dawns the ego is simply a web of defenses around the heart. Ironically, the ego does not know its own heart. The Self that has realized who we are , that One being is completely free of all illusions and projections that created our suffering. To reach self-realisation is to reach a state where no suffering exists. Illusion creates suffering. As one grows aware of, dismantles false beliefs and ideologies, only then can one know what true freedom is. At this point, one must let go of the ego itself. This is necessary because the egoic concept blocks the infinite nature of consciousness. Truth is, only one consciousness exists, not a multiplicity of egos. We have created a holographic world of worlds but we have never left one consciousness. The world we think we know is maya-illusion. Reading about different levels of reality is not the same as direct experience of this. Its the difference between studying electricity and getting electrocuted,( or feeling biocircuits connect and allow cosmic energy to flow). Read as much about lightning as you like. Its not the same as being hit by lightning. Every upheaval in our lives today is a catalyst for awakening soul consciousness and rediscovering true freedom.

The Universe has our Back

Notice the universe has got our back. As we shift from fear to love, feel more at ease opening the heart and sharing our truth, curious things happen. We stop chasing what is not meant for us and have more energy to see things that are. The beings who are meant to be in our life stay (or show up) and offer us exactly what we need with perfect timing-(information, insight, compassion). Those who are not meant to be here anymore mysteriously move away, leave or run. Those that do stay deepen connections in ways we cannot always explain. It is almost as if intimacy develops based on seeing into each other's soul. We have deeper connections from shared experiences, challenges and pain. Our connection is about feeling heard, worthy, accepted and genuinely valued. Being vulnerable is the bridge to deeper connection. This only happens as we grow into self-love, self-acceptance and being comfortable in our skin. And yet, physical connection is not the same as emotional or soul -level connection. True intimacy is about sharing dimensions of attention, telepathy, being open to expansion, deepening maturity and more.

Live to Optimum Potential

Notice being in your True Power is about recognizing the Source, where/when you are not in your Power and also why you have given power away. The key to transforming anything, including ourselves, arises in our ability to stand back and reframe where we are. Only then, do we see what we allow to influence us, to grow more aware of when we may feel small, limited or insignificant, to see beneath the clever excuses we offer to justify not being real or transparent, and not moving forward. Recognizing who we are is not the point. Manifesting as a measure of success is not the point either. The point is the nature and insight that arises within and through us during our own unique journey. We are composing a symphony of energetic experience to share with the universe. The momentum of this builds during the process of remembering and however we are guided along the way. The longer that it takes is to know the more exhilarated we can feel, the more we can experience, laugh and savor each moment to the fullest. This is living to optimum potential

Match the frequency of new realities

Notice our current unique version of reality echoes a specific frequency band. We experience limited bands unless we are willing to expand into more. Core being functions in electromagnetic language. Each belief reflects vibrations. Physical reality arises based on what the mind echoes to be true and real. On a physical level, this takes shape in what appear to be life choices, work, our relationships, and perceptions. As our sense of reality expands, it dawns we cannot perceive what is not aligned with our vibration. How often we interact with others may seem to be based on availability, calendar schedules, or verbal consent. On a deeper level, all that occurs reflects frequencies that align. All that appears in our scope of awareness is encoded. The unknown (as of yet unseen) is where the rest of us resides. It is nothing to fear. Each instance we are willing to face and integrate our own shadows, dismantle and let go of our beliefs, we are consciously breaking down self-created barriers of time and space. Each step is about becoming a conscious worldbridger, to experience boundless realms, dimensions and beings that co-exist simultaneously on different freqeuncies of a cosmic radio dial. We only tune into we what we are willing to integrate into our evolving reality. An analogy is we are each like a computer circuit board that can only handle a certain intensity of energy flow. So as not to blow our own inner circuits, we allow energies to enter our awarness in-line with proper upgrades. Energetic shifts allow us to hold more light and expand our reality at our pace. Match the frequency of the reality we want and that is our experience. This is the way of the energetic universe.