Decode the upheavals
![Date Date](/universal/images/transparent.png)
-----------------------
Liara Covert, Ph.D
Insight of the Moment
"Love everything. Be fully present. All doors are open."- Liara Covert
Books
*Mastering Time
365 Paths to Love
Contact us (paperback)
Be Your Dream
Transform Your Life
Cosmic Synchronicity
Self-Disclosure
Those who struggle to create and experience lasting relationships may be unaware of the power we each hold to reframe or turn our lives around. This requires introspection, shadowork, deep honesty. Before making hasty decisions, consider 5 Ways to explore new approachins to existing relationships:
1. Give & receive without judgement
2. Treat others as you would like to be treated (or better)
3. Derive strength and inspiration from relationships
4. Act to enable your partner to feel seen, heard & valued
5. Cultivate courage to speak your truth with compassion, understanding and love
Now, doing the above whole-heartedly opens you to deeper insight within yourself. If, when you communicate, you still do not feel loved, valued or heard and still do not feel on the same wavelength, then this invites you to step back and recognize your needs are not being met and other actions must be taken. Positive, lasting change can only result when you consistently listen and align with your true self.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This is of course, the tip of the iceberg. Connect with us to join one of our related courses to help renew, revilaltize or reframe key relationships in your life.
Once there was a famous wrestler we'll call “Great Waves.” He was muscular and strong and knew the art of wrestling. In private bouts he defeated even his teacher, yet in public was so bashful that even his students threw him down. He was at a loss for words as well as inner peace.
Troubled, the wrestler decided to visit a Zen temple for help. There, a wise teacher advised him.
“Great Waves is your name,” said the teacher. “So spend tonight in the temple. Imagine that you are water. You are no longer a wrestler who is afraid. You are those powerful waves sweeping over everything in sight. Do this and you will never again be defeated.”
The teacher left. The wrestler sat still, trying to imagine himself as water. His mind wandered but soon he began to feel more and more like moving waves. As night advanced the waves grew taller and taller. They swept away the flowers and rushed over the statues. Before dawn the temple was nothing but the tide of a vast ocean.
In the morning the teacher found the wrestler in meditation with a slight smile on his face. He patted the man’s shoulder. “Now nothing can disturb you,” he said. “You are the waves. You will sweep everything before you.”
That day, the wrestler entered and won a big tournament, and was never again defeated by his thoughts.
Contrary to popular belief, no peaceful mind exists. Mind itself cannot be peaceful. Its very nature is to be tense and confusing. Mind cannot have clarity. Peace and silence exist without mind. Never attempt to silence the mind. Only as you understand the nature of mind does your life shift.
Watch and you observe thoughts but never encounter the mind. Thoughts are not one with your nature. Thoughts come and go like visitors. They are like waves in the ocean. You persist as the host. All thoughts are borrowed. As this enters your visceral experience, everything transforms. Awareness is noticing what arises in gaps between thoughts and being that.
Recall martial artist Bruce Lee said, "be like water." The most challenging adversary is the thinking mind. True confidence and inner peace do not reside in temples or remote places. As we turn inward, go inside our own hearts, here we find all we seek.
Getting to the root of who you are involves true courage. This is not the heroic kind, putting your life or reputation on the line, that western society has come to focus on. Its about remembering how it feels to speak openly and honestly, fearlessly putting our vulnerability on the line.
In other words, we must be willing to take responsibility, set an example for living authentically. Otherwise, we simply create and encounter a mirror of our own deception. When was the last instance you risked being vulnerable and disappointed? How did that turn out for you?
Practicing true courage involves selectively sharing your vision with people who support you, not downplaying your dreams. Its about allowing tears or emotions to flow as they will, not hiding your true feelings as society so often teaches. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others and relate to them with compassion on equal footing.
If the root of everything is genuine connection, then everything you think, do or say either strengthens or weakens this connection. The topic certainly merits some attention. What if you feel energized or drained based on the degree you feel seen, heard and valued, based on the freedom you give yourself to offer input without fear of judgment?
Through her research, Brene Brown reveals that only one thing separates people who feel a deep sense of love and belonging (connection) from people who seem to be struggling for (or running from) it. This is the depth of belief in worthiness. True connection arises from an equal exchange of energy. How do you share or exchange energy to derive your self- worth? What are your behavioural patterns telling you about the nature of connection in your life?
If we want to fully experience connection, we must act as if we know we are worthy of it. We must also recognize being who we are doesn't require us to change. It simply requires self-acceptance to guide our life choices. Take an inventory of how you feel. Let go of who you think you are supposed to be. Olny seeing through the falseness can you embrace who you are.